Discerning the Difference Between Healthy Self-Esteem and Toxic Selfishness

In response to my article The Self, Self-Esteem, and Dying to Self, one reader posted this question:

So…I’m just curious but how do you suggest one can find a balance between the two? I agree with your article and I’m grateful that you mention how Christian culture can cause us to have low self esteem as I feel like that’s a large reason why I don’t like…